NEWSLETTER 14 JOY VS HAPPINESS

ST. CHARLES NORTH
NORTH STAR FOOTBALL 

WEEKLY JOURNAL 

JOY & HAPPINESS 

APRIL 5TH-APRIL 12TH 

I hope this letter finds you doing well and your family safe.  As I sit and write this letter on Friday afternoon, thoughts run in and out and lightning speed. It is always hard for me to edit and find the one thought that I would like to share through this channel.  We are going on 4 weeks of the stay at home order and I think our family has found a routine that works for the time being. My role has changed completely from out of the house 100 hour per week teacher / coach to stay at home Dad and kindergarten teacher with my daughters Morgan and Isla.  This was not an easy transition for me and early on I found myself fighting the change. I was not trying to be the “best fry guy” , I was searching for answers. As it often does, I found some peace of mind in a great book I am reading. The chapter was about compassion and how we often don’t afford ourselves the same compassion we would someone else.  This struck a chord with me in a very emotional way. Instead of being unhappy in my current situation, I needed to show myself some compassion and look for the joy during this difficult time. 

Joy vs Happiness 

“Happiness is not present in darkness and difficulty. Joy never leaves it. Joy undergirds our spirits; it brings to life peace and contentment.”

It has been argued that happiness does not happen within us but rather it happens to us. An event or situation that makes us feel happy. It also says that without that event there is no happiness.  

Joy, on the other hand, is a choice purposefully made. Joy is an attitude of the heart and spirit, present inside of us as an untapped reservoir of potential.

It’s possible to feel joy in difficult times. Joy doesn’t need a smile in order to exist, although it does feel better with one. Joy can share its space with other emotions – sadness, shame or anger. Happiness can’t. – the Difference 

This resonates to the very core of my being. I will admit that I have not always been a person of joy. Too often it has taken extrinsic moments to bring happiness to me. However, as I live through this monumental time where despair and fear run rampant I search and treasure the moments of joy I find each day. I have been reintroduced to my daughters and who they are. I witness each day how amazing my wife is as a mother. I find peace sitting in my backyard feeling the sun on my face as I work to move our program forward.. These  moments of joy have helped me cope and have given me hope for what is to come. I also want to express the joy that my daily interactions with those in our football family have brought. Your mere presence and connection is appreciated. 

As we move into mid April I hope that you can find joy during these difficult times. I wish that those moments of joy bring you peace even if only for a few minutes. Have a wonderful weekend and we will get through this. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Keep responding in positive ways and we can’t lose. 

Performance Training 

  • REMOTE DEVELOPMENT PLAN IS SHARED ON GOOGLE SITE FOR PLAYERS 
  • I have posted all lifts on Rack Performance 
  • Additional workouts will be on GOOGLE SITE 
  • Additional skill work has been posted on GOOGLE SITE 

ANNOUNCEMENTS: 

SUMMER CAMP DATES: IMPORTANT 

COLLEGE RECRUITING 

Due to the shelter in place college coaches are now asking for film and recruiting information to be sent directly to them. I will be doing this for our kids. 

ALL AMERICAN 7 ON 7 

  • Currently on hold

COLLEGE 411 PRESENTATION 

  • Currently on hold
  • Potential Zoom meeting TBD 

SUMMER CAMP LIST 

This year we will have the usual camps listed below . 

*June 1st- 4th is designated for youth and individual skills camps. 

* We have added a new camp opportunity. June 6th – July 30th we will be running a separate strength & conditioning class. Bryce Biel of Legacy Performance and his staff along with our Staff will be running a 75 minute strength & speed session M-R. Camp times will vary from June to July. The availability of this camp will allow us to separate our football and strength development. While this is an extra cost, the development to the athlete is well worth it  in my opinion. Prices have yet to be released but I can assure you it will come down to less than 10 dollars a session which is well below Bryce’s usual cost. We took this step as the logical progression in our program’s development. We have always felt that our strength development conflicted with our football development in the summer. This will alleviate that problem. Additionally, we start official football camp on June 22nd. From June 1st – June 18th we will be having OTA (organized team activities) film and scheme sessions from 6pm – 8pm. These are non padded classroom based sessions. A full curriculum is being developed to better prepare our athletes cognitively for the summer installs. Again we feel this aligns more consistently with our 4 quadrant development model. There will not be a camp sign up as these opportunities are free of charge. 

* I appreciate the monetary investment you make on your child’s behalf. If you have questions please contact me. 

Newsletter 14 Courage and Confidence

ST. CHARLES NORTH
NORTH STAR FOOTBALL 

WEEKLY JOURNAL 

Courage vs Confidence 

I hope this message finds your family safe and healthy. I know that has been the name of the game for the past 3 weeks. It’s Wednesday when I am writing this and I want to apologize for not getting the newsletter out in a timely manner but much like you I am working through a mixed bag of emotions on a day to day basis. Writing the newsletter is cathartic but also drums up some of my own natural emotions.  On any given day you can find a million different opinions, stats and theories about what is going on. I for one have chosen to control what I can control and be the best husband, dad, son, brother and coach that I can be. For me personally, the lack of control is very difficult and each day I have chosen to make a difference to the small group of people that I can impact.  

“Courage or Confident Never In-Between”

In our program on game day we have a team meeting around 4:45pm that we call our “mindset meeting” In this meeting we don’t talk about X’s and O’s but instead talk about the game in detail from a mental aspect. What will the crowd be like? What type of energy will the other team bring early on? How will we handle adversity?  During this meeting I draw a continuum on the board that looks much like this. 

Courage—————–0—————Confidence

In the game of football there will be moments when we feel in control and have the game under our thumb. In those moments, we are playing with 100% confidence. However, there will be other times when things are not going as well and in those instances we must play courageously.  The only thing we ask of our players is to never be in between. You must play throttle down and 100% all in regardless of the side of the spectrum you are on. These times are calling for us to be courageous, choose faith over fear and be a positive influence to those we come into contact with (observing all social distancing rules, of course)  All in all we can do it, we will do it and I am proud of all you. 

Performance Training 

  • Mandatory Zoom Meeting Sunday 4/ 5
  • Link will posted on google classroom 
  • I have posted all lifts on Rack Performance 
  • Additional workouts will be on google classroom 
  • Additional skill work has been posted on both twitter and classroom

ANNOUNCEMENTS: 

CONGRATULATIONS 

Jordan Nubin received his 1st offer from Minnesota Duluth ! 

Carmine Bastone received his 1st offer from Rose Hulman ! 

SUMMER CAMP DATES 

COLLEGE RECRUITING 

Due to the shelter in place college coaches are now asking for film and recruiting information to be sent directly to them. I will be doing this for our kids. 

ALL AMERICAN 7 ON 7 

  • Currently on hold

COLLEGE 411 PRESENTATION 

  • Currently on hold
  • Potential Zoom meeting TBD 

SUMMER CAMP LIST 

This year we will have the usual camps listed below . 

*June 1st- 4th is designated for youth and individual skills camps. 

* We have added a new camp opportunity. June 6th – July 30th we will be running a separate strength & conditioning class. Bryce Biel of Legacy Performance and his staff along with our Staff will be running a 75 minute strength & speed session M-R. Camp times will vary from June to July. The availability of this camp will allow us to separate our football and strength development. While this is an extra cost, the development to the athlete is well worth it  in my opinion. Prices have yet to be released but I can assure you it will come down to less than 10 dollars a session which is well below Bryce’s usual cost. We took this step as the logical progression in our program’s development. We have always felt that our strength development conflicted with our football development in the summer. This will alleviate that problem. Additionally, we start official football camp on June 22nd. From June 1st – June 18th we will be having OTA (organized team activities) film and scheme sessions from 6pm – 8pm. These are non padded classroom based sessions. A full curriculum is being developed to better prepare our athletes cognitively for the summer installs. Again we feel this aligns more consistently with our 4 quadrant development model. There will not be a camp sign up as these opportunities are free of charge. 

* I appreciate the monetary investment you make on your child’s behalf. If you have questions please contact me. 

Newsletter 10

ST. CHARLES NORTH
NORTH STAR FOOTBALL 

WEEKLY JOURNAL 

Quarter 2 March 9th – March 15th

Hello! So I think we can safely say that this newsletter is the reason for the great weather.  It is hard to deny the correlation. I hope this message finds your families doing well and enjoying this taste of spring.   

I am sure you are all reading the headlines and having to process what  is happening in the world right now. So much information coming in at such a high rate can flood the cognitive system. It is hard to sift through what is factual and what is sensationalized. In short, it is difficult to know what and who to trust.  As a parent I find it challenging to navigate my concern for my family and keeping life status quo for my children. I appreciate the efforts that you make to give your families the best and protect them daily. I wish for your family’s health and peace  during this time. 

TRUST 

Every year, I spend the months of December through May studying leadership, team building and cultural dynamics. I have a passion for researching what attributes makes teams go from good to great and what behaviors allow programs to attain sustained success.  The dynamics of a great business or team are not all that different. Trust is the foundation that all relationships are built on. It is the thread that holds together the fabric of every relationship we have. As we move into the beginning of the 2nd quarter of our performance development program it is essential to reaffirm how the St. Charles North  Football Club works to define, develop and earn trust. 

Trust by definition is vague, it has soft edges that can be manipulated to fit many molds. In the SCN Football program we want to provide clarity to our stakeholders and define trust as being comprised by the following buckets. 

Character: ethical trust 

Competence: technical trust 

Connection: personal trust 

The ideology of trust not being given but earned is a common theme within our program. Every experience we give is going to either strengthen or weaken the bond of trust. In order to truly build trust we must give consistent, repeated positive experiences.

As the head coach, it is my job to earn every stakeholders trust in our program. I learned from a great mentor of mine the following. 

“Earn their trust ! Don’t assume because you have the title of head coach that trust will follow. Trust is earned/ lost through every experience you give that person.” 

Character

At the core of St. Charles North football is our character development program. Iron Star football is built on the behaviors of being a leader , accountable, selfless, prepared and invested. As the head coach I must show our players what being a person of character looks like. Our players will remember what we did as coaches long after they forgot what was said.  I want our players to see me as a father, a husband, a brother , a son and a coach. They need to understand that character is not just a sometimes thing it is an all the time thing. We show our players the way and remind them that character is fragile. You can spend your whole life building your character and one bad decision can ruin it.  

For our players we want to clearly define what character looks like within our program. As a parent/ family I encourage you to think about how the experience you give in our program can represent our values. 

Competence

The New England Patriots and Bill Belichick live by one simple motto “Do Your Job”. Regardless of your title, each constituent is in charge of doing their job to the highest level. In our program we define competence in the following ways. 

  • Knowledge – know your scheme’s 
  • Skills – execute your duties with elite detail
  • Attitudes- be a positive influence
  • Personal Character – be passionate not emotional

In my opinion anyone can “do their job” but only the best can understand and execute their job with elite detail. That is the difference between good and great. The good do their job while the great do their job with unprecedented attention to the finite details. In the St. Charles North Football program we lay the expectations out to our players on what competence should like as it relates to our value system. 

I recently gave a speech at a clinic talking about trust and competence. As the head coach one would assume that X and O competence is a given. (insert head coach joke here) For me, I look at competence as the ability to show that I am worthy of coaching your son’s or daughter’s.  You see, different aspects of the trust paradigm weigh differently for specific groups of people. As a parent, you are allowing me access to your most prized possessions. It is my job to earn your trust by proving that I am competent in having a hand in their development as an athlete, student and person when they are not under your roof. I view this as a HUGE responsibility and it has formed the basis for much of our program philosophies. 

CONNECTION 

In the physical world connections are used all around us. The light switch that creates energy to  your house, the transfer on the tollway that allows you to travel the country and even your smart phone that keeps you tethered to your social circle. Emotionally, some say that connections are the single most influential factor into the success of a unit.  A strong connection can be life changing. It is the reason why many of us got married and started a family. When we connect with someone you make an emotional investment into them. For many of us making a strong connection can be difficult. It requires us to get out of our comfort zones and have a willingness to become somewhat vulnerable. When we connect we give up a little control and for guys like me that is scary (insert type A personality joke here).  On the flip side a family, team or program that is connected can be an unstoppable force. Think of it like a water hose. When the hose is laid out straight the water is allowed to flow with power and a great amount of force. However, if one part of the hose is kinked the connection is not as strong. The water will still figure out a way to flow but without as much power as before. Take it a step further and if the water is impeded entirely and the connection is cut off, the results can be catastrophic.  My job in this program is two fold 

  1. Connect our key stakeholders through a common mission, vision and purpose through shared experiences. .
  2. Look for kinks in the hose and address them before it blows up in our face. 

Simple Math 

Addition/ Subtraction/Divider/ Multiplier 

A great coach in our program Pat Shannon explains connection in simple terms. He says that we can play 1 of 4 roles in our program. You can be a connector and add value to everyone in our program. Some may choose to talk negatively and in turn subtract from the program’s value. Others may choose to divide the program and create cliques by  only connecting with those who share similar perspectives. Finally, and what I hope we all can work to become, is a multiplier. A multiplier is a catalyst of positive connections. They believe in the program’s mission and pass it along to anyone who wants to be a part of it. Multipliers create the greatest impact in any business or program.  Unfortunately, the multipliers are also the hardest to find. 

I am excited to begin this second chapter of  our 2020 season. To our athletes who are in spring sports, be the best version of you. Bring your standards into that program and hold others to them.  To everyone else, the program never stops. There is always something that can keep you connected. Seek them out and invest your most treasured commodity. TIME!

SPRING PERFORMANCE TRAINING BEGINS THIS WEEK!!!

Monday March 9th  

8PM LEGACY TRAINING 

  • OPEN TO RAM’S 
  • CHEETAH’S WHO NEED TO MAKE UP

Tuesday March 10th

-Film Study 6:15am Team room 

–  Whole Group Lift @SCN 2:35pm 

Wednesday March 11th

  • LEADERSHIP TRAINING   2:30pm 

8PM LEGACY TRAINING 

  • OPEN TO CHEETAH’S 
  • RAM’S WHO NEED TO MAKE UP 

Thursday March 12th

–  Whole Group Lift @SCN 2:35pm 

Friday March 13th

  • POLAR BEAR 6AM (MEZZ) 
  • OPEN GYM 2:45PM -4:30PM 
    • DRESS FOR OUTSIDE
    • BRING CLEATS / WATER ETC. 

Saturday March 14th 

  • 8am Legacy Training

ANNOUNCEMENTS: 

SUMMER CAMP DATES 

COLLEGE RECRUITING 

MARCH 21ST YOUTH CAMP/PARENT NITE OUT

ALL AMERICAN 7 ON 7 

COLLEGE 411 PRESENTATION 

– MARCH 25TH 6PM ROOM 302

– Clint Cosgrove Director of Midwest Scouting @ National Preps Scouting

– 1 hour informational meeting design to help navigate parents through the recruiting process. 

– RSVP form coming this week  

SUMMER CAMP LIST 

This year we will have the usual camps listed below . 

*June 1st- 4th is designated for youth and individual skills camps. 

* We have added a new camp opportunity. June 6th – July 30th we will be running a separate strength & conditioning class. Bryce Biel of Legacy Performance and his staff along with our Staff will be running a 75 minute strength & speed session M-R. Camp times will vary from June to July. The availability of this camp will allow us to separate our football and strength development. While this is an extra cost, the development to the athlete is well worth it  in my opinion. Prices have yet to be released but I can assure you it will come down to less than 10 dollars a session which is well below Bryce’s usual cost. We took this step as the logical progression in our program’s development. We have always felt that our strength development conflicted with our football development in the summer. This will alleviate that problem. Additionally, we start official football camp on June 22nd. From June 1st – June 18th we will be having OTA (organized team activities) film and scheme sessions from 6pm – 8pm. These are non padded classroom based sessions. A full curriculum is being developed to better prepare our athletes cognitively for the summer installs. Again we feel this aligns more consistently with our 4 quadrant development model. There will not be a camp sign up as these opportunities are free of charge. 

* I appreciate the monetary investment you make on your child’s behalf. If you have questions please contact me.